Overcome Fear To Unlock Your Full Potential
I’m always reading posts about Impostor Syndrome, which is to think oneself is unworthy of success due to feelings of intellectual fraudulence.
In other words, due to the lack of a certification or degree in a specific field, someone may feel as though his/her own knowledge isn’t credible. We all know that knowledge shouldn’t be discounted simply because a formal education wasn’t received. Don’t fall victim to Impostor Syndrome; be proud that you’re a natural born or self-taught genius! On the other hand, be proud if you are formally educated because, more than likely, you busted your ass for that degree!
I have a Bachelor’s in Graphic Design and I have a Master’s in Business, yet I found myself almost wanting to hide them. There are a lot of people out there trying to paint the picture for those who don’t have a formal education that it is unnecessary and overrated. I allowed these beliefs to make me feel like an overachiever and I imagined that I would get the eye roll from browsing clients and be disregarded. I seriously had a horrible self-esteem.
Self-worth is a fundamental unit needed for business success and I was missing that element. I realized that I wasn’t allowing my accomplishments to be seen as accomplishments and would constantly play them down. Having a college degree is not a requirement in the online entrepreneur industry. Thankfully, I came to terms with this fact and thought, “F that!” Seems like this was the first step to overcome fear in my business.
Earning those degrees were no cake-walk for me and proved to me that I could do anything.
I’m proud of myself, in fact. I’m proud that I didn’t let years of struggling through elementary and high school define me. I’m glad that I didn’t listen to teachers who said I would amount to nothing or said, “My dead grandma could have passed that spelling test.” I’m glad that I didn’t need honor roll or scholarships or academic anything in order to keep pushing myself.
I’m glad that I didn’t need others’ confidence when my “friends” thought I cheated because I made the highest grade on a huge research paper. They didn’t know that I was tutored every single day for 3 weeks so my grammar and spelling errors wouldn’t drown me! I’m glad that I kept going when I failed the same damn algebra class in college 4 times because, on the 5th time, I was only 2 points away from an A.
My deep-rooted issue of low self-esteem got in the way of progress with my business.
I didn’t think I was good enough or had anything to offer. I compared myself to everyone else ALL the time and I allowed myself to be paralyzed by trying to achieve perfection which doesn’t exist. I stayed busy even though I wasn’t taking any actionable steps. I procrastinated jumping off the ledge into the world of business because I was so scared of rejection that it literally kept me up at night. I allowed fear to control my life.
This needed to change; I needed to change if I to wanted to succeed. First, I developed the habit of correcting myself if I got discouraged or put myself down. Also, I surrounded myself with supportive people and I read a lot of self-help books. A lot. Some of my favorites were Excuses Begone by Wayne Dyer, You Are A Badass by Jen Sincero and The Motivation Manifesto by Brendon Burchard.
I encouraged myself with affirmations such as “Each and every day, I am getting better and better.” And “Fear is nothing more than an emotion I allow myself to feel.” I worked really hard to make an honest effort throughout the day to find things I was grateful for. And the more I did this, the more I began to realize that my issues were small. I began to realize that I had control over the outcome of my life.
After spending over 20 years in that dark and dismal place, I found the light. Actually, I created the light! And you can too. Being self-aware is the first step to overcome fear. Tell yourself, “No more excuses.” Regardless of the struggles and fears, you’re facing, you can do whatever your heart desires.
So find a friend, a mentor, a good book, or even a yoga class and start somewhere. Work on yourself from the inside out. Believe in yourself. Take risks, be challenged and, when it’s all said and done, be invigorated and proud. You are the key to your success and you are the best at what you do. You make your business unique. You are everything you need to fill the voids and overcome fear in your life.
Be your own kind of amazing.