Regardless of what you experience in your life, you still have the choice whether or not you get caught up in the emotions. Believe me when I tell you that ANYTHING can be overcome. At the time, things can be painful and they may not make a damn bit of sense. We get angry with God or angry with ourselves. Allow yourself to feel the pain and the anger and the sadness but then you have to release them so that you can heal and move on. These experiences are necessary for us to gain perspective. They help us to see all of the things we do have and all of the things we should be grateful for. You are a warrior who can rise from the ashes of any experience or situation.
Experience emotions, then let them go
Last year, I had an incredibly difficult Christmas. Christmas morning, I woke up bleeding. I was seven weeks pregnant at the time. I got scared and I cried. It started off being minor but, as the day continued, the bleeding increased. I knew what was happening but my day was going to continue because it was my son’s first Christmas and I had family coming over. I’ve disconnected from so many in my life that I wanted to truly enjoy my family. And I did. I had a good afternoon. By that night, I had miscarried. After calling my doctor, going to the emergency room, and having emergency surgery, I allowed myself to grieve. I understood that these things happen and there was so much in my life that I could still be grateful for.
This too shall pass
Sometimes, the true meaning comes long after the experience. So many foundations and organizations have been inspired from something horrible and have grown to be the miracles so many people need. You must accept these life-changing moments for what they are. You can’t go back and change it. So what can you do now to move forward from it? Remember those you loved and lost and let them become your inspiration. You can still be grateful for the time you had with them. And you can still be grateful for all you still have.
Look for inspiration
Oprah is a fantastic example of the power of mindset. She had a fucked up life when she was younger, but look at her now. Her wisdom comes from experiences and issues that she had to overcome but she refused to let them consume her. We get to choose how we want to think, how we want to act, how we want to live, and what we want to believe.
The little things matter
I’ve been sleeping so shitty lately so this morning when I woke up, I was miserable. I bitched for three minutes. I allowed myself three minutes. Then, when I looked out of my French doors, I saw this hot pink, purple, and orange glow. It was the most beautiful sunrise and I realized how grateful I was to be awake at that time to witness it. Then, my son woke up a little early, but he was in a happy mood so I was grateful for him and his cheerful mood as well. I also acknowledged that I was grateful for another day that I have to live and share myself and my gifts. I shifted my focus to the positive aspects of my day, thereby making my day a good one.
Overcome with a mindset shift
You, too, have that capability and control. View yourself as one with the Universe. When you are one, co-existing and blending with the Universe, you have a greater sense of peace and belonging. The more you love yourself and the more love you emit to the Universe, the more love you will receive.