Be the change you wish to see in yourself.
You are always right where you need to be. You may be in a place different than someone else and that’s 100% okay because this is YOUR journey, not theirs. Even if you see people sabotaging themselves, it is not your job to tell them repeatedly in hopes of ‘fixing’ them. You may ask, “Can’t I motivate and change them?” No, you can’t change anyone; they can only change themselves. The same rule applies to you.
Let yourself be in the moment and doing that will invoke a change in yourself and in others.
I’ve been told that I change people and I give people happiness. I don’t give people things or happiness. What I do is create a space and facilitate an energy that allows you to be in the receptive mode, whether it’s a livestream or a group program. I don’t even have programs that are everlasting because I want and expect people to outgrow me at some point in time. I’m not the type of person who sets you up to need me again and again. For some of you, watching me or listening to me is exactly what you need today and my message will lead you to the path you’re meant to take. It will only lead you to the next step on your journey. I am not going to change your path. My group program or my course won’t change your path. What will change you and the course of your life is what you take from my program and explore within yourself.
So many times with social media, people try to convince you that they have all kinds of money and can afford to drive the nicest cars and travel to all these beautiful places. Don’t buy into this shit. You are only seeing what they want you to see. They may be poor AF and their marriage could be falling apart and all you think is, “They must be a fantastic coach or whatever because they have all of this stuff.” The keyword is ‘stuff.’ You will never see me take pics in front of my car or on a plane to show you I’m flying first class and saying, “Oh, look at me.” I don’t want you to think that the reason I’m happy is because I have “things.” Happiness doesn’t stem from cars, first class tickets, or lavish vacations. I’m happy because I became happy. I changed myself. I don’t want you to buy into the idea that you’ll be happy if you have certain things.
Choose to be happy with who you are, where you are, and what you’re doing NOW. Traveling the world doesn’t make you happy. Vacations don’t make you happy. Actually, the exact opposite is true. Your happiness is what makes vacations enjoyable. You could go to a tropical island with a gorgeous ass guy, wear a fucking bikini because you’re in the best shape of your life, and have a new adventure every day all while sipping Piña Coladas and if you’re in a constant crappy mood, your vacation is still going to suck.
People also have this association between money and happiness. They believe that if they had money, they would be genuinely happy. That’s bullshit. Money is just something to blame for their unhappiness. Then, they eventually make obscene amounts of money and all of their bills are paid with a little left over and, still, they’re fucking miserable. Why is that? That is because the misery lives within them. When they can’t blame money, they’ll find someone or something else to blame. I’ve had jobs for which I’ve made pennies and I’ve had jobs for which the pay was freaking amazing. It never made a damn bit of difference how much money I had, I was depressed regardless.
You have to get to the root of your unhappiness and why it affects all areas of your life. I’ll give you an example so you can understand how it works. Let’s say you have a pipe leaking in your attic. For a while, you don’t even know but, eventually, a water spot shows up on your living room ceiling. You can tell something in the room isn’t right so you try to improve it. You add a fresh coat of paint to cover up the dark spot, some new lighting to brighten up the space, new furniture to improve comfort and make it look fancy. None of these improvements do anything to fix the problem so the pipe keeps leaking. The leak gets bigger and bigger. Pretty soon, the water spot spreads to the kitchen, then the bedroom, and so on. If you don’t fix this shit soon, you’re going to come home to a big fucking hole in the ceiling that now needs to be completely redone. If you would have just repaired it when it was a small hole in a pipe, all other damage would have been avoided. Instead, you ignored it and allowed this small leak to completely destroy your home.
Sometimes, we are completely unaware that we even have a problem until someone else points it out to us. We aren’t even self-aware, we just roll through the motions every day like we have tunnel vision, like we have blinders on blocking our view of the world around us. You think that’s just what life is but no, that is just what you made life to be. When you’re ready, you will slowly remove the blinders and notice the world around you and release the little chains that are holding you back until you’re finally free. The fixes are not quick or easy and every issue is solved differently. Each person needs something different to work through problems. Trust yourself. Trust that you know what you need.
Allow your soul to lead you. Sometimes, the mind or the ego controls you and your movements. Your body, your skin suit, your physical form, whatever you want to call it, is your vehicle. It is thought that the mind is the driver of this vehicle when, in actuality, the soul should be the driver. We are so accustomed to going through the motions. So often, our actions are nothing more than a steady stream of reactions to everything the universe is throwing at us. That’s not the way it should be, in fact, it’s quite the opposite. The universe should be reacting to us and our actions. We should be driven toward our desires by our souls, each action made completely on purpose and sending us further forward. The universe responds to us and the signals we send out.
I’ll give a little shout out to someone who was in my life, sometimes I don’t know why she was there, but she taught me one good thing that I remember even today. She said, “Be Danielle 2.0.” Well, I want you to be You 2.0. Sometimes, I feel like I’m moving beyond Danielle 2.0. and straight into 5.0. I even skip a few points. In any case, be the next version of yourself. Through that process, you accept where you are. You say, “I know that I’m sleeping on my sister’s couch right now but I’m thankful for a roof over my head and a sister that will let me sleep on her couch. I may not have a job right now but I’m thankful for the time to really reflect upon myself and figure out what I want to do next and who I want to be. I realize the universe gave me some time and space to spend with myself. I have the opportunity to see the good in life and to see what I actually have.”
Yes, our cards are dealt to us. However, you can choose to pull a card out of your deck and say, “I don’t want this shit.” Throw that card in the fucking garbage. You can choose one of your cards and say, “Yes, I need more of this so I’m going to put that one right back into my deck.”
You have complete control over what you allow into your life. Don’t be afraid to weed out the trash and make room in your life for more. More beauty, more love, and more positivity.